September 4, 2010, 5:03 am
i am in a dilemma..i have to leave my husband..i have been suspicious of him for awhile and have caught him in lies in the past..i caught him using dating services and confronted him about it..he claimed that he was just bored and wanted someone to talk to..i gave him the benifit of the doubt and insisted that he never do this again because it makes me insecure and that i consider it cheating..he has been very careful about deleting his comp history and he hides his cellphone when he comes home..as my suspicions grew i finally got a chance to see his phone again..he has been using dating services again, looking for a new rental home, lookiing at surveilance equipment and the grossest thing ever..he has used an escort agency..
ok..i know i cant get over this..we have to break up..this stuff has been going on for awhile and he is looking for a way out too..my dilemma is that i dont know if i should wait until after xmas..he is away right now but when he gets back i am not sure if i can keep this inside..i have been stewing about this for a week now..the reason i want to wait until after xmas is because we have children and i recently lost my father to cancer and this is our first xmas without him and i dont want to add drama or ruin xmas for my kids..but i want to claw his eyes out..i know this will go better if i stay calm and his being away is definitly helping me to not go all hysterical..i am very hurt and angry..ANY INSIGHTS?